We feel emotional pain in the present tense. We remember having emotional pain yesterday and we can anticipate it in the future, but we can only feel it today.
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Accumulation of negative emotion in the body is stress - emotional constipation. The stronger you feel an emotion in your body, the greater the amount of stress that is accumulated in your body.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra explains the cycle of emotions that reoccurs in everyone's life countless times. It begins in the present reality " where only pain and pleasure are felt " and ends in complex emotions rooted in perceived reality (past and future) - such as guilt and depression. The cycle is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
It is easy to cause another person pain with something you do or say. It may be intentional or unintentional, but often results in a pain for you also; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - all result in stress. One example is people who frequently drag up old stuff in arguments in order to hurt their partner. Their perception is that the partner has hurt them or "blames" them in some way. Their conditioned response, which eases their own pain in the present, paradoxically has a considerable physiological impact on their own body (experienced later).
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. Your emotional constipation and the stress you feel in your body can be understood in the context of the pain time-line. - 20785
Emotional pain felt in your body can be shown on a pain time-line. Stress describes any negative emotion that you feel in your body. Every emotion is felt by individuals at a particular level of intensity; low, medium or high. Hurt is a negative emotion that you feel in the present. Anger or resentment is a feeling generated from memory of something in the past and anxiety from a situation you think may happen in the future. All emotional pain adds to your store of stress.
Accumulation of negative emotion in the body is stress - emotional constipation. The stronger you feel an emotion in your body, the greater the amount of stress that is accumulated in your body.
In his book, "Ageless Body, Timeless Mind", Deepak Chopra describes the cycle of emotions. He explains that when the brain has a cognitive appraisal only two impulses are aroused - pain or pleasure. "We all want to avoid pain and experience pleasure. Therefore, all the complicated emotional states we find ourselves in are because we are unable to obey these basic drives."
Chopra explains the cycle of emotions that reoccurs in everyone's life countless times. It begins in the present reality " where only pain and pleasure are felt " and ends in complex emotions rooted in perceived reality (past and future) - such as guilt and depression. The cycle is as follows:
* Pain in the present is experienced as hurt.
* Pain in the past is remembered as anger.
* Pain in the future is perceived as anxiety - a lessening of mental relaxation, associated to the alert reaction.
* Unexpressed anger - redirected against yourself and held within - is called guilt.
* The depletion of energy that occurs when anger is redirected inward creates depression.
The cycle of emotion explains why stored hurt is something we all experience to some degree. It is this stored hurt that is responsible for emotional constipation. Chopra writes, "Buried hurt disguises itself as anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression." In order to live in the present we must learn to avoid the easy emotion of anger and confront other hurts that are more difficult to deal with. Unresolved anger simply gets worse, feeding on itself.
It is easy to cause another person pain with something you do or say. It may be intentional or unintentional, but often results in a pain for you also; guilt, remorse, shame, and regret - all result in stress. One example is people who frequently drag up old stuff in arguments in order to hurt their partner. Their perception is that the partner has hurt them or "blames" them in some way. Their conditioned response, which eases their own pain in the present, paradoxically has a considerable physiological impact on their own body (experienced later).
Emotional constipation - emotional distress - is "dis-ease"; an illness of how you think. You are what you think. How you feel depends on how you think. Your emotional constipation and the stress you feel in your body can be understood in the context of the pain time-line. - 20785
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More expert advice on recognizing the emotion cycle, dealing with unresolved resentments and emotional constipation is available from Karen Gosling's website, which is all about surviving emotional pain.
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